Lip gloss, foundation, innerwear in 'girlie' patterns and colours, and a passion for all things pink, these are just some of the traits that set off alarm bells in a dentist's head, almost a year after marriage, that her husband could be gay.
Recently, the 32-year-old test engineer employed with the financial services department of Infosys was arrested by the city police after his wife caught his alleged homosexual encounters on hidden cameras installed in their Malleswaram home. He has been charged under section 377 of the IPC. Police said John F (name changed to protect identity) was a native of Thiruvananthapuram, who was born and raised in Abu Dhabi.
John's marriage was arranged to Lisa (name changed) in November 2013, but the couple lived and worked apart for the first six months. While the techie was posted in the Mysore branch of Infosys, his 31-year-old wife was practicing at a clinic in Bangalore. It was only in May 2014 that John sought a transfer to Bangalore and the couple rented a house together in Malleswaram.
Though they had been married for a good six months, John allegedly refused to touch Lisa and did not initiate any physical contact with her. The two even slept in separate rooms, according to the dentist.
"It was the pink lip gloss that first roused my suspicions. He used it every day without fail, and if it smudged even a little, he would touch it up immediately. His mannerisms and interests were also feminine, and whenever I questioned him, he always gave dodgy responses," said Lisa, speaking to Bangalore Mirror.
The techie would leave home at 8 am, only to return around 10.30-11 pm every day. Whenever Lisa was working late, however, John would always come home early. It was only after casually questioning her neighbours that she learnt John was constantly bringing male friends home.
When she tried to ask him about these 'friends', the techie would reportedly digress from the subject using random excuses. Soon, Lisa found out that her husband was bringing home strangers whenever she was out of the house.
Each time she tried probing, John would silence her by saying the men were interested in discussing 'business'. Numerous suggestions by Lisa that they should visit a marriage counsellor or a psychiatrist went in vain.
"I first spoke to John and advised him to get a medical test done, thinking he did not want to get intimate with me because he was impotent. However, he flatly refused; so I had no option but to approach his parents. Imagine my utter shock when they blamed me for their son not being attracted to me, saying he was 'perfect' and that I was flawed in some way. They also harshly told me to divorce my husband if I couldn't handle him," Lisa recalled.
And so John continued bringing men to their house in his wife's absence, and the couple continued to bicker over his strange habits. Finally, the dentist decided to take matters into her own hands. Turning detective, she installed hidden cameras inside their hall, bedrooms, and kitchen; with the devices capable of storing recorded footage over a span of 10 days.
Subsequently, Lisa left for her hometown in Golur, Tumkur on October 1 for a week-long visit to her parents' house. When she came back and reviewed the video footage, she was aghast to find recordings of her husband's homosexual encounters with another man. Immediately, she burned the recording onto a CD, and armed with the evidence, walked into the nearest police station to file a complaint.
"I have also accused my in-laws of cheating me since I believe they knew their son was gay, but intentionally led me to believe he wasn't. They have cheated me and ruined my life by getting me married to him," the dentist rued.
Confirming the incident, Deputy Commissioner of Police (Central), Sandeep Patil, said, "We arrested the techie soon after his wife tendered a complaint, with proof. The techie's parents have been booked for cheating the victim, but these allegations have to be fully proved before we can arrest them."
WHAT IS SEC 377?
Under Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, gay sex is an offence punishable with life imprisonment.
The section was declared unconstitutional by the Delhi high court in July 2009.
However, on December 12, 2013, that judgment was overturned by the Supreme Court, with the apex court holding that amending or repealing Section 377 should be left to Parliament, not the judiciary.