Do you feel your relationship has passed its "expiry" date?
Yes, it is extremely challenging to deal with a relationship which is on its last legs. But if it has come to this, then you need to be willing to step up and end it. Because not speaking up when you know your relationship is over is cowardly and, ultimately, not fair to your partner too.
Sometimes it becomes important to take action. Yes, this is going to be hard, but if you are sure you're not happy anymore, the painful experience is worth it.
Out of respect for her, never tell your friends you're going to break up before telling her it's over. Your girlfriend does not deserve to be told that you're no longer interested by your friends. You could discuss some relationship problems with your buddies, but your final decision to break up with her should remain private.
And don’t look for a perfect time to break up; remember that there will be no "perfect time" to end the relationship. The best thing to do is set a random day to break up — and stick to it.
It will do you more damage than good if you try to pinpoint exactly what was the history of this beef, and where did things go down. Be a nice guy by telling her that even though you are the one causing this breakup, you are going to be hurt too. Let the both of you be friends in mutual sorrow. Part of keeping it simple also includes ending it smoothly. Which means avoid dragging out your breakup – this needs to be one and done.
You're probably not the only one who’s been feeling the relationship going downhill. A good way to bring closure for both of you is to prod her too about the problems she has been facing, and make her understand why the two of you aren't best suited for one another. Ask her if she's been feeling the lag in your relationship. She'll probably have quite a few instances of her own as to why things haven't been working out. Letting her talk it through will help her see why you brought the topic up in the first place.
There's a big reason why you made the decision to confront her with a breakup. She may "not understand why you're doing this," but be sure and stick to your guns. There's nothing worse than a flip-flop relationship! You are either in or you're out.
Ending a relationship can bring intense emotions, so be prepared to encounter them. When she starts to cry, be sympathetic but don't be drawn in by the overflow of heartbreaking tears. Be an emotional rock – don’t change your stance out of pity.
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