Your girlfriend sharply sees your relationship with your mom, and even judges you on the basis of it! Forget the age-old cliché of women finding men close to their mummy's as sissies! The real truth is: every girl wants a man who is sensitive and mindful of female emotions. And they learn a lot about your sensitive side (or lack of it!) – from how you treat your mother! Here are six reasons why your relationship with your mom also affects her:
The silent man personality suited our grandfathers! Today, women seek men who can both listen and talk. Men who have been close to their mothers are usually more articulate in expressing their emotions than those who aren't that close to their moms.
Of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect other women. These soft skills also help them in the workplace, and in their romantic relationships (read huge brownie points form girlfriend!) Even in terms of professional caliber, brute physical strength and a dominating style are no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to have great communication skills and strong social intelligence – something that mothers inculcate in them almost intuitively.
A broken or emotionless relationship with the mother can be the biggest red flag in the history of all red flags. Reading Freud will further enlighten you on this. But the truth is that if you treat your mom rudely, your girlfriend is going to have serious doubts about you – and your ability to handle other complex relationships, like yours and his, his relationship with your family, etc.
Boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to develop behavioral problems later. Psychologists reveal that boys who do not bond with their mothers are likely to get much more hostile, destructive and aggressive. And who wants to date an angry young man? No one, at least not now! The angry young man's heydays have disappeared just like Amitabh's youth!
A close bond with mothers helps develop emotional intelligence in sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and being more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys grow up to be more articulate – helping them to sharpen their reading and writing skills. And who doesn't want a writer boyfriend?
Seriously, boys who are close to their mothers are confident enough not to buy into those hyper-masculine stereotypes. They don't believe that boys always need to act tough, or fight to prove their manhood every time they are challenged. Not only do they have better friendships, but also face less anxiety and depression than their more macho peers.
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